Apologies for being MIA for ages. I have two jobs, my full time job and I work for my husband too. So NHS work and my Oga at the top's work when I get home. I don't mean kitchen job or the "other room" o.
I type blog posts during lunch at work but I don't get the chance to post them.
Oh well, I can only hope next year will be better.
Compliments of the season to you all. Hope you had a good Christmas? Mine wasn't too bad. I was on call and of course I was called into work. "rolls eyes"
I can not believe how quick this year has gone.
Its been one heck of a year, with lots of up and downs. In fact, more downs I think but through it all, God has been faithful.
I thank God for good friends, or good mates should I say? You never can tell which is which nowadays.
I thank God for good family members and the ones that think they are smarter than you.
I thank God for work colleagues. Jeeez where do I even start from. Those guys (Oyinbos) are mostly hypocrites. As in, they talk about every one, get upset at one person but not brave enough to say it to their face. Yet pretend to be cool with them....."bet why" I really can't deal.
And yes I missed the memo on being diplomatic, I just say it as it is.
I remember saying to one that I didn't come to the Christmas meal cos I can't deal with knowing they are all unhappy with each other yet they want to sit down and act all happy. (I went to the main party for the whole department, I'm not bah- humbug)
What is wrong with trashing things out with one another and moving on from there? But that is apparently asking for too much.
Not just work colleagues o.
I have come to realize that to end up with life long friends, you have to be able to "sugar coat" the truth.
So if you feel your friend is doing something not right, don't just say it to them. Instead beat round the bush small and hope they get the gist and if they don't, just act like nothing happened and move on!
Choo, I am sorry I shall not be able to do that.
I say things as they are. I really really could't give a toss if you don't like it.
Please don't take this wrongly, I am never rude to anyone, or at least I try not to be.
I don't set out to be rude but if you are a mate and i see you doing something wrong, I put it to you nicely. Times when I can not say anything, I just walk away and withdraw from the person.
I once had an older lady in church embarrass a young lady.
"your dad needs to become grandpa o and I want to come and eat rice too"
In front of other young married ladies as well as single ones.
I didn't care whether she was older or not o #coversface# ( she was also my HOD)
I went to her like "Auntie but why? The struggle is real o, you don't have to add to it by embarrassing her like that na. Yes you might think you are as good as her mummy ( You know with Nigerians, every church woman likes to play mummy in your life) .
You don't know whether she has just been jilted, whether she is struggling to find a man, whatever the case may be, if you absolutely HAVE to have that kinda conversation with someone, call them to the side and not embarrass them like that.
She took it quite well and went to apologize.
Another supposed friend of mine like to throw in sickies at work, Its not been long since I met this one but she's cool like that. I had to say, its ok to be off sick o but if you actually don't need it, then don't take a piss.
This is because its not RIGHT to have sick time when you don't need it. You can actually do yourself more harm than good.
If you need to get another job, they will ask for a reference and you will just not get that job. You current manager is expected to be honest and tell them your sickness record, so which sensible employer will give a good job to someone who is always off sick?
Also it might mean you are overlooked for promotions or more training as you won't be a reliable person.
I think she took it well but kinda went quiet afterwards. Safe to say she wasn't a happy bunny
"coversface"
I think I will end up with no friends, if I carry on like this o. If I can't tell you the truth if you are erring, then you are NOT my friend.
The honest truth is, I really do not mind.
I would like to be told the truth if I am doing something wrong.
Would you do the same? tell a friend if they are doing something wrong? Or just mind your business and pretend you are cool with the way they are so you can keep them as friends?
So basically lower your standard so you can have friends?
Don't laugh o, but I just noticed that people have friends for different occasions???
Blog post for another day.
